Today I transitioned, from
family to friends. Over the weekend, my brother and his wife, two of my nieces
and their significant others, my nephew, and two cousins were all in town for
the memorial. They came from Massachusetts, Connecticut, Maryland, Virginia,
and California. They flew in, and they drove. Some I'd seen recently, others
not for years. Some stayed at hotels, some with me. It was fun, but also
wearing. Family interactions can be intense, with archeological layers,
It's interesting to see certain
patterns emerge. When we visited relatives when I was a child, my father was
the family handyman. People saved their broken appliances and electrical
problem for him: "This radio hasn't worked in years"; "Can you
move this outlet?"; "This TV only picks up static." My brother
and his wife just gave me an electronic weather station, with indoor and
outdoor thermometers and some sort of sensor that offers a forecast. Today my
brother labored away at finding a location for the outdoor temperature gauge,
installing it (masonry or metal were the only surfaces available, and he had to
make a couple of trips to my building's handyman for the right kind of nail),
and then setting up the indoor monitor. So he's filled the Mr. Fix-It slot our
father used to occupy. (Jack would not have wanted my brother climbing out of
windows and hammering into walls to set up some device he, Jack, didn't see any
need for.)
Niece R. filled the computer
tech slot previously occupied by my brother, though he added input as well, as
we tried to divine how to download Jack's old Sent mail into a new e-mail
client I wanted to try out. Helpful, yes.
The transition happened when
niece and boyfriend set off for home, and brother and wife will leave too early
tomorrow for me to see them again. So I went off to meet GirlGriot for a writing
date, where I am writing these Slices. Friends and family came together at the
memorial, and now move off into their respective worlds.
Just so you know, I'm not a night owl, but a west coast blogger. I just read all your posts. What a whirlwind weekend and filled with so much emotion. I love how you noticed that people step into slots previously filled by others. And glad you had a writing date with GirlGriot tonight! Congrats on catching up! Especially during such an emotional time.
ReplyDeletethank you. It was filled with a lot of emotion, some of it mixed. But it was all necessary.
DeleteWhat a legacy of loving and caring. Such a blessing.
ReplyDeletethank you.
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